"You can be right, or you can be happy"
Thirty one years is a long time to be married--believe me I know. I spent the first ten or so of those years being right. Then I either heard or read somewhere this "right or happy" phrase. I might have coined it, but I don't think so--I don't feel that smart. If I knew its real source, I would give credit here to whomever deserves it--but I don't. You must agree, however, that whatever the source, there is much wisdom in the thought. Surely, in some relationship you've either had or now have, it could have applied. Just think if you'd allowed your partner to win more "arguments". Would that have improved your relationship? Without a doubt, it would have helped mine.

To my everlasting regret, I learned it too late. And I've spent most of the past two decades paying dearly for it. Since I spent so long "in the right" I probably damaged my own marriage beyond repair. Don't let that happen to you. Some hurts simply don't heal. They may fade, but the scar is still there. And not all scars show, but they are there just the same. So, I try hard now to let her be right. At this late stage, however, the "happy" part is hard to achieve. I share this with you in hopes of helping other relationships that are still growing.

Think about it.